CONSEJOS DE UN PADRE A SU HIJO

Jackson Brown es un padre preocupado por la felicidad de su hijo y por ello le escribió estos “consejos” cuando éste se fue a estudiar a la Universidad, lejos de su casa.  Su hijo decidió fotocopiarlos y los distribuyó entre sus compañeros.

Los mensajes tuvieron tanto éxito, que una editorial le pidió autorización a Brown para editar un libro con ellos, Life's Little Instruction Book, una publicación que rápidamente se convirtió en un best seller traducido a varios idiomas.

Algunos consejos tremendamente útiles y aplicables para toda la vida!

Hijo:

 • Cásate con la persona correcta. De esta decisión dependerá el 90% de tu felicidad o tu miseria.
• Observa el amanecer por lo menos una vez al año.
• Estrecha la mano con firmeza, y mira a la gente de frente a los ojos.
• Ten un buen equipo de música.
• Elige a un socio de la misma manera que elegirías a un compañero de tenis: busca que sea fuerte donde tú eres débil y viceversa.
• Desconfía de los fanfarrones: nadie alardea de lo que le sobra.
• Recuerda los cumpleaños de la gente que te importa.
• Evita a las personas negativas; siempre tienen un problema para cada solución.
• Maneja coches que no sean muy caros, pero date el gusto de tener una buena casa.
• Nunca existe una segunda oportunidad para causar una buena primera impresión.
• No hagas comentarios sobre el peso de una persona, ni le digas a alguien que está perdiendo el pelo. Ya lo sabe.
• Recuerda que se logra más de las personas por medio del estímulo que del reproche.
• Dile al débil que es fuerte y lo verás hacer fuerza.
• Nunca amenaces si no estás dispuesto a cumplir.
• Muestra respeto extra por las personas que hacen el trabajo más pesado.
• Haz lo que creas que sea correcto, sin importar lo que otros piensen.
• Dale una mano a tu hijo cada vez que tengas la oportunidad…. Llegará el momento en que ya no te dejará hacerlo.
• Aprende a mirar a la gente desde sus sandalias y no desde las tuyas.
• Ubica tus pretensiones en el marco de tus posibilidades.
• Recuerda el viejo proverbio: sin deudas, no hay peligros ni problemas.
• No hay nada más difícil que responder a las preguntas de los necios.
• Aprende a compartir con los demás y descubre la alegría de ser útil a tu prójimo.
• El que no vive para servir, no sirve para vivir.
• Acude a tus compromisos a tiempo. La puntualidad es el respeto por el tiempo ajeno.
• Confía en la gente, pero cierra tu coche con llave.
• Recuerda que el gran amor y el gran desafío incluyen también 'el gran riesgo'.
• No confundas confort con felicidad.
• Nunca confundas riqueza con éxito.
• No pierdas nunca el sentido del humor y aprende a reírte de tus propios defectos.
• No esperes que otro sepa lo que quieres si no lo dices.
• Aunque tengas una posición holgada, haz que tus hijos paguen parte de sus estudios.
• Haz dos copias de las fotos que saques y envíalas a las personas que aparezcan en las fotos.
• Trata a tus empleados con el mismo respeto con que tratas a tus clientes.
• No olvides que el silencio es a veces la mejor respuesta.
• No deseches una buena idea porque no te gusta de quien viene.
• Nunca compres un colchón barato: nos pasamos la tercera parte nuestra vida encima de él.
• Nunca compres nada eléctrico en una feria artesanal.
• Escucha el doble de lo que hablas (por eso tenemos dos oídos y una sola boca).
• Cuando necesites un consejo profesional, pídelo a profesionales y no a amigos.
• Aprende a distinguir quiénes son tus amigos y quiénes son tus enemigos.
• Nunca envidies: la envidia es el homenaje que la mediocridad le rinde al talento.
• Recuerda que la felicidad no es una meta sino un camino: disfruta mientras lo recorres.
• Si no quieres sentirte frustrado, no te pongas metas imposibles.
• La gente más feliz no necesariamente tiene lo mejor de todo.

Pero ante todo: PON A DIOS DELANTE DE LO QUE HAGAS

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DEALING WITH RUDE PEOPLE... QUOTES TO REMEMBER!!!

The way people treat you is a statement about who they are as human being.  It is not a statement about you.

How people treat you, is their KARMA: how you react, is YOURS. Unknown.

Be strong, but not rude; be kind but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant. Unknown

The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others. Hasidic Proverb

A successful individual is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks other have thrown at him/her. Unknown

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

A fool's annoyance is known at once, but the prudent overlooks an insult. Proverbs 12:16

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. 

Lao Tzu

A person's wisdom makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. COLOSSIANS 3: 23 – 24

Quit worrying about people that are trying to hold you back. God knows how to move the wrong people out of your life and bring the right people in. He knows how to prepare you to Break Out.  Joel Osteen

Do not speak in the ears of a fool, for he will despise the wisdom of your words. Proverbs 23:9

Do not answer a fool according to his folly, lest you yourself also be like him. Proverbs 26:4

A person's pride will bring him low, but one who has a lowly spirit will gain honor. Proverbs 29:23

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

1 PETER 5: 6 –7

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

A gentle response turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath. Proverbs 15:1

A quick-tempered person stirs up dissension, but one who is slow to anger calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding but only in disclosing what is on his mind.  Proverbs 18:2

The one who gives an answer before he listens - that is his folly and his shame.  Proverbs 18:13

The more a man knows, the more he forgives. Catherine the Great

Fight for your opinions, but do not believe that they contain the whole truth or the only truth.  Charles A. Dana

Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to talk to you. Anonymous

We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out. Winston Churchill

Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. Winston Churchill

It is a fine thing to be honest, but it is also very important to be right.  Winston Churchill

Raise your words, not your voice. Rumi

Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to talk to you. Unknown

People ask the difference between a leader and a boss. The leader works in the open, and a boss in covert. The leader leads, and the boss drives. Theodore Roosevelt

A boss creates fear, a leader confidence. A Boss fixes blame, a leader corrects mistakes. A boss makes work drudgery, a leader makes it interesting. A boss is interested in himself or herself; a leader is interested in the group.

Russell H. Ewing

Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one's ideas, to take a calculated risk - and to act. Andre Malraux

Being nice to those who treat you badly isn't being fake. Your spiritual maturity has risen above the desire for vengeance. Michael Binot

Be a master of the mind, not mastered by the mind. 

Zen Proverb

Be kind to unkind people; they need it the most!!!! Buddhism

The woman [or individual] who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet. Mohadesa Najumi

I have long since come to believe that people never mean half of what they say, and that it is best to disregard their talk and judge only their actions.  Dorothy Day

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. Dalai Lama

Blame is a distraction that prevents you from moving forward. Unknown

If you focus on your problems, you stumble. If you focus on God, your problems stumble.

You are not only responsible for what you say, but also for what you do not say. Martin Luther

No drug, not even alcohol, causes the fundamental ills of society. If we're looking for the source of our troubles, we shouldn't test people for drugs, we should test them for stupidity, ignorance, greed and love of power.

P. J. O'Rourke

He who kneels before God, can stand before anyone. Unknown

Let each one examine his own work. Then he can take pride in himself and not compare himself with someone else. -Galatians 6:4

I choose to make the REST of my life, the BEST of my Life!!!! Louis Hay

Be selective in your battles; sometimes peace is better than being right. Unknown

If you do not speak when it matters, when would it matter that you speak? Even a dead fish can go with the flow. Jim Hightower

I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the President of the university. 

Albert Einstein.

Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all. Aristotle

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer everyone. -Colossians 4:6

Choose to be kind over being right and you'll be right every time.  Richard Carlson

Be more concerned with what God thinks about you, then what other people think about you. Unknown

What then shall we say about these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?  Romans 8:31

When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen. Ernest Hemingway

God is our strong refuge; he is truly our helper in times of trouble. Psalms 46:1

People will question all the GOOD things they hear about you but believe all the BAD without second thought. Unknown

Those who stand for nothing fall for anything. 

Alexander Hamilton

In life, you will realize that there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you and some will teach you. But, the one's that are important are the one's who bring out the best in your. They're the rare and amazing people who remind you why it's worth it.

I used to walk into a room full of people and wondered whether if they like me; now I look around and wonder whether I like them. Unknown

The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best. Epictetus

One of the most courageous decisions you'll ever make is to finally let go of everything that's been hurting you and holding you back!  Unknown

Whoever corrects a mocker is asking for insult; whoever reproves a wicked person receives abuse. Do not reprove a mocker or he will hate you; reprove a wise person and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise person, and he will become wiser still; teach a righteous person and he will add to his learning. The beginning of wisdom is to fear the Lord, and acknowledging the Holy One is understanding. Proverbs 9:7-10

Don’t let your history hinder you from your destiny... you are only held back by yourself! You aren't what they say you were, you are who God says you are!!   Paula White

And let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near. 

Hebrews 10:24-25

To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them. Charles de Montesquieu

Someone’s opinion of you isn't reality... unless you decide to allow it!! You are who God says you are!!! Paula White.

Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment.  

Lao Tzu

People have the right to their opinion and you have the right to ignore it.  Joel Osteen

Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things. Peter Drucker

Leadership is unlocking people's potential to become better. Bill Bradley

The basis of leadership is the capacity of the leader to change the mindset, the framework of the other person.
 Warren Bennis 

God takes what the enemy meant for your bad and turns it for your good! It wasn't a set back but a set up! Wait and see what God is getting ready to do for you!  Paula White

Hatred and rage as opposed to tolerance and understanding

He who hates you is explained by the fact that once he tried to be like you and he failed. Unknown

Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated. Coretta Scott King

Do not reprove a mocker or he will hate you; reprove a wise person and he will love you. Proverbs 9:8

I would rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not. Kurt Cobain

You cannot hate other people without hating your self.  Oprah Winfrey

Hate no one; hate their vices, not themselves. J.G.C. Brainard

Hating is for the weak, loving is for the strong. It takes more to love someone who did you wrong than it does to hate them. Unknown

People can't really do much to you. They may like you or hate you, but God's opinion is the one that really matters, because He decides your destiny. Unknown

Your friends love you for your style and nature (personality) and your enemies hate you for the same reasons. Unknown

Human beings like success but they hate successful people!  Unknown

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear. Martin Luther King, Jr.

He who hates you, evidences his own inferiority. Earl of Chesterfield

Love makes little things grow, hate destroys even the big ones. Unknown

Let no man pull you low enough to hate him. -Martin Luther King Jr.

When our hatred is too bitter it places us below those whom we hate. François de la Rochefoucauld

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.  Martin Luther King, Jr.

Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the handcuffs of hate. William Ward 

Don’t waste your time with “explanations”: your friends don’t need them; your enemies won’t believe them and idiots won’t understand them either. Unknown.

A man who lives, not by what he loves but what he hates, is a sick man. Archibald Macleish

Tolerance is giving to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself. Robert Green Ingersoll 

Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. - Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama

If you don’t know, then ask me. If you don’t agree, then argue with me.  If you don’t like, then say it to me. But don’t start judging me silently and please, don’t badmouth me!   Unknown.

Don't mind criticism. If it is untrue, disregard it; if unfair, keep from irritation; if it is ignorant, smile; if it is justified, it is not criticism, learn from it. Unknown

It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenseless one. Only the ignorant and narrow-minded gossip, for they speak of persons instead of things. Lawrence G. Lovasik

Before you judge me, please make sure you are perfect. Unknown

WATCH YOUR WORDS AND BECOME A GOOD LISTENER

I do not hear very well (hearing impairment) but I continuously try to be a good listener as such has proved to be a key element for a good conversation and for my own personal development. 

I have also learned, that sometimes is better to remain silent instead of being engaged in a negative argument with an unclear outcome or benefit for the parties involved.  I also try to remain silent is there no value-added with my own comments.  Furthermore, sometimes “silence” becomes the best answer!

Based on the above, I have selected some quotes, which emphasize the need to be very careful when we speak.  I hope that you enjoy them and put them in practice to ensure your own personal development.

The world would be happier if men had the same capacity to be silent that they have to speak. Spinoza

Since light travels faster than sound, some people appear bright until you hear them speak. Unknown

Better to remain silent and be considered as a fool that to speak and remove all doubt. English Proverb

    

When you talk, you repeat what you already know; when you listen, you often learn something. Jared Sparks

The one who gives an answer before he listens - that is his folly and his shame. Proverbs 18:13

Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble. Frank Tyger

If you don't see it with your own eyes, or hear it with your own ears, don't invent it with your small mind AND share it with your BIG MOUTH. Medical Humor

Remove perverse speech from your mouth; keep devious talk far from your lips. Proverbs 4:24

If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut. Albert Einstein

The tongue of the wise treats knowledge correctly, but the mouth of the fool spouts out folly.  Proverbs 15:2

Success comes from keeping the ears open and the mouth closed. John D. Rockefeller

The truly wise person restrains his words, and the one who stays calm is discerning. Even a fool who remains silent is considered wise, and the one who holds his tongue is deemed discerning. Proverbs 17:27-28

Everyone hears what you say, FRIENDS listen to what you say, and BEST FRIENDS listen to what you don't say. Unknown

Nature has given men one tongue and two ears, so we may hear twice as much as we speak.  Epictetus

Talk low, talk slow and don't say too much. John Wayne

One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears - by listening to them. Dean Rusk

Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a soft tongue can break a bone. Proverbs 25:15

Do not speak- unless it improves on silence.

Buddhist Proverb

For all sorts of evils, there are two remedies: time and silence. Alexander Dumas

Silence is a source of great strength. Lao Tzu

When you talk, make sure that your words are not worst than your silence. Unknown

Wise men are not always silent, but they know when to be. Oprah

A foolish man tells a woman to stop talking, but a   man tells her that her mouth is extremely beautiful when her lips are closed. Unknown

Unless your name is Google, stop acting like you know everything.  Unknown

Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something. Plato